The power of words
John Bristow • June 26, 2020
Our subconcious is listening
When
you read this blog post, you will feel empowered
with new insight
and personal knowledge.
well, maybe not...However,
Consider the following 2 statements:
“Learn about the English language”
“Discover the English language”
Both statements evoke a slightly different emotion. Notice how you feel when you read each statement.
Now consider these two statements, this time perhaps you have just dropped a cup that then got broken. What would you say to yourself?
“Oh, what a silly <insert negative name calling here>
Or just..
“Oh”
I imagine most people to curse themselves when such accidents happen. I also imagine that comes from our parent’s.. “Oh you silly so & so”, later in life we call ourselves a “silly so & so”
But deep down those words are working their magic. Our inner critic tells us we are less than, it feeds upon this language.
Our subconscious mind is quietly whispering to itself....
If we can’t do something, even if no one has ever shown us how, it calls us “stupid”
If we are not strong and our feelings get hurt, it tells us we are just "weak"
If we are not beautiful, as beautiful as the models on the TV. Then it says we must be “ugly”
STOP
Actually, you are NOT worthless, stupid, weak or ugly. Sure, you may have broken a few cups in your time but haven’t we all. I certainly have. You are just a human. Unique and individual. We are all just human.
Perfectly imperfect.
Change your wording. Change your feelings.
Do not use negative words. Reframe into positive words and phrases. Even if you don’t believe them at first. Keep it up and work on it. In time it will have an affect.
It takes practice and repetition to change a part of who we are and how we operate, but it can be done. Our past does not have to be our future. There is always the chance to change. As my therapist said to me - change makes change.
Use positive affirming words on yourself, your children and your loved ones, even when a cup ends up on the floor. If your first thought has negative connotations. stop and try again. Follow it up with something loving.
The subconscious is listening!